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Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Wedding Ramblings and such.

Calvin really likes this picture of me. It was taken a few weeks ago. I hate posting without photos. No other reason for the picture!

First, the wedding may be off! Not the marriage...just the wedding. I want something very small and still want to do it at church after Sunday worship service but people are starting to drive me crazy about what I HAVE to do. Calvin is sick of it and so am I. I am about ready to tell everybody to got to Hell and leave me alone. I see now why people elope...I am ALMOST there. If I don't wan't a bouquet, personalized napkins, attendants, engraved cake knife, a video etc., that's my business.

I've been sick since Saturday afternoon. If I never have nausea or vomiting for the rest of my life that is okay with me. My throat feels as though I've burned it with hot coffee. Since Saturday I haven't been able to keep any food down for long and have mostly given up trying. I've been living on crackers and diet Pepsi...the 6 oz cans. I don't know what brings it on but when it does I have go off of my meds but feel as though I'm walking around (okay laying around) in a drug-induced haze. I've got the shakes and am generally miserable. So do I feel like working on my dress or any other wedding details? No. What was I thinking getting married this month? Calvin says I haven't had an entire week of feeling great since September 2008. Yikes! I never really thought about that. I still think someone should have warned me. I was just so sure that after surgery I was going to be back to normal. I think I felt better when I still had cancer! Recovering is killing me! So I'll have to spend about a week off of all meds and then another week slowing going by on. By then it will be the 17th and only 13 days to the wedding. I'm going to sleep on it for one more night but generally I think I'm calling everything off except the "I do(s)."

In your opinion what is the difference between an experienced and an inexperienced sewer? I think the difference is that an experienced sewer really knows what their particular limitations are and readily accepts them or takes steps to correct them. An experienced sewer knows when a project can be salvaged and when to give up the fight and move on. Not every project can be salvaged. I used to have a poster in my sewing room of a man floating in an inner tube in what appeared to be the middle of the ocean. It read "good judgement comes from experience, experience comes from poor judgement." In my opinion that is truly the difference between experienced and inexperienced sewers.

14 comments:

  1. KMQ, I know you only asked for responses reference the experience question, but please bear with me for a minute. IT'S YOUR WEDDING! Do whatever you and Calvin want to do and ignore what everyone else wants. They can have what they want when they get married. Second, with all the stress you're under, it's not surprising you're ill. Take care of yourself or you can't take care of or enjoy anything else. No, docs don't tell you everything. I had a kidney transplant 2 years ago. Head doc says, you'll be up and out in a couple of weeks. Hah! It was more like 3 months. I was sick as a dog. Don't get me wrong, I am extremly glad I did it and knowing everything I know now would do it again. But being better informed, I would have been better prepared. You're not alone, we're all here for you. We'll all be cyber bridesmaids!
    Now for the andswer to your question. This topic is always debated. Unfortunately there's no checklist for the various levels. I think everyone is in agreement with experienced/advanced. Couture wedding dresses, evening gowns, tailored suits, etc. It's the beginner/intermediate classification that's tricky. But I agree with your poster and may copy it. Take care of yourself. I'm pulling for you and wishing you all the happiness in the world!

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  2. Can I just say ditto to what Melodye said about the wedding?! Its your day and you should do what you want!

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  3. Get married in the manner you want. Tell people you're having a very intimate, small wedding, immediate family only. Then, get married in your church the way you want, go somewhere (or don't) and don't worry what anyone else wants you to do.

    Experienced sewers know their capabilities but are open to new and different techniques and suggestions.

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  4. PS I sure hope you get feeling better SOON !

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  5. On my third strike I got married in Gatlinburg, it's the Las Vegas of the South lol but it was a very nice no fuss kinda deal, you might want to check it out, it's not to late to elope. I hope you feel better soon. Almost forgot to answer your question, experience = time in my opinion, I don't think you can sew for years and not learn a lot along the way.

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  6. i agree, it's your day, do it your way. i just had a random thought, get a few of your best friends and and get married in front of the fountain at the peabody. (i love the peabody)and just do it spontaneously. you, your friends and the preacher, just bust up in there and get married after church....just say hey guys we're going over to the peabody to get married, want to go? and have your cake and punch at home. i hope you get to feeling better soon. are you on a medicine that depresses your immune system? i say your name every morning and lift you up to Him.

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  7. you know, i just double checked your profile....i'm crazy, i don't know why i thought you lived in memphis...anyway i still think you should do your wedding your way and do it in the least stressful way possible.

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  8. Jeff and I got married at city hall. City hall! And I still had people trying to be pushy. How can you be pushy over a city hall wedding? I have no idea, but they tried. Good luck with all that, and I hope you feel better soon.

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  9. The wedding sets the stage for your marriage. You do not want to be all stressed. Do it when and where and how you want. It is your day with your man. Stress can't be aiding you with your recovery! I can see why he loves that picture. You are truly beautiful.
    I agree with your assessment on an experienced sewer knowing his/her limitations. I also think experience helps you see your way through problems, like you said.
    Thanks for the comment on my 100th post. I do like the idea of giving something that will keep a little one warm. My little grand daughter will like the Annie dress, I hope, and the dress up clothes that I made her today. I made her a wedding dress. You could just borrow it.LOL

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  10. I pray that you are feeling better soon! I agree with everyon else, do your wedding as you wish, it's your day & your life! Take care.

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  11. Get married in whatever way you want!! We didn't do the "traditional" thing either, and if anyone had anything to say about it, they were lucky enough they didn't say it to my face, lol!!! Have the wedding that YOU want, and heck with everyone else!!

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  12. Hang in there.. I pray you feel better soon... Don't let anything or anyone stress you out....

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  13. Your wedding is just that YOURS! My sister went through the same thing she called off the cremony. Two weeks later she invited everyone over for a party at her home. While all the family was mingling she and her fiance went upstairs and changed into their wedding clothes, a minister who was in attendance got up a friend put on the wedding march and they got married right in their livingroom. It was a total surprise to everyone there but on October 7th they will be married 20 years. They did it their way and when we look back it was such fun. My mom and dad had a fit, but it wasn't their choice to make. Do what you want and feel good doing it. Hope you feel better.

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